I’m 43 this year, and if Buckminster Fuller is accurate in his 50th prediction, I’m just a little bit over the 30% mark. What will I do for the next 97 years?
(For the uninitiated, R Buckminster Fuller is one of the greatest thinkers of the 20th century. He was an engineer, a futurist, and most of all, an “occurrence” of the universe. He made 50 predictions in his lifetime – extrapolated from fact-based observations, 49 of which had already come true at the point of his death in 1983 – his 50th prediction was that, IF you are male and aged 40 and below in 1970, a non-smoker, you will have a lifespan of 140 years by the year 2000.)
I’m made my share of mistakes, definitely been through major ups and downs in my life. Money, relationships, friendships… there’s been a fair share of coming and going.
I learnt pretty early to be independent, and whilst to me that meant deciding what I wanted to get in life, to some people, it was called being rebellious.
So I look back at the struggles that I’ve had, I see how the dots have connected. Losing my mother at 3 months was the start of an entire chain of events that would create the life I have right now, with massive lessons along the way, some extremely painful, that could neither have been planned nor would I wish upon anyone else.
But I am extremely grateful for the life that I have now, and the very trying times that I see now as blessings that I’ve had along the way that has kept me going, a little wiser each time.
What I have is the foundation to what I consider four key principles – I call them my cornerstones – for a fully experienced life. And these are the four keys I use when I work with people to create their own fully experienced lives.
1. Go to the edge and then some more.
Test the boundaries. Continue to push your boundaries – the secret is to get past the edge and not fall off. Status quo is relative, until the next equilibrium is found.
We are all cursed to get the same experience, until we get the lesson. We are all condemned to stay in the same reality, until we get past the edge.
You need no permission to live your life, it’s yours. Live fully, the only limits are those you impose upon yourself. Don’t ever be afraid of being criticized, it is mostly done by people who never dared to go to the edge themselves.
Be courageous, fear is only a story that your mind tells you to stop you and it is not real. You are far more talented and gifted than you think you are.
Most people never recognize or discover the gifts and talents that they’ve been blessed with. I would invite that exploration and inquiry.
The only way to know how far you can go is to push the limits. There have been times when I would have stopped, and I have been blessed with mentors and kindred souls who have given me that extra push. Be open to be supported, it can make all the difference.
We get our breakthroughs from hitting and going beyond limits, and that’s where the permanent shifts come from. Once you hit and go beyond the edge, you open up a bigger reality, with far bigger possibilities that you might never have seen before. And things actually become easier.
2. Get ever more with doing ever less
There are ways to getting more done with doing less work, creating a lot more results with less effort, and then some, than you would ever think of. Find ways to do this and become a master of leverage.
Time is the greatest equalizer, we all have the same amount of that. Leverage will allow you to squeeze more out than most people.
You can leverage everything – time, money, resources and even energy. It is how you focus, channel and maximize it, and reduce the amount that is wasted.
When you get how you can do this, you will have far more energy, time and resources than you thought you had. Life stops being a struggle, and actually becomes a lot more predictable, and really, really fun.
3. Make your own rules
Don’t ever make any assumptions and don’t believe everything that you hear or read. I discovered very early that nobody has a monopoly on knowledge. There’s always the truth and then there’s what people will tell you is true. Know the difference.
Don’t accept things just as they are, always ask questions, and stand in your own power. Find your own truth, and create your own rules. Because if you don’t know the truth, you might be living a life based on someone else’s ignorance.
Learn from masters but make what you learn your own and do it your way. Take it to the next level, all progress depends on the people who are unreasonable in not accepting things as they are. Right and wrong is relative.
Honor yourself, love yourself, acknowledge yourself. Be the master of your own life.
This is the way to live the life you deserve, with your own rules.
4. Don’t play it safe
Take the risk.
Most people don’t regret things that they do, as silly or even stupid as some of the things might have been. It’s the things they didn’t do that they regret. Sometimes you go past the point of no return and there’s no turning back.
Don’t ever be afraid to make mistakes, that’s how we learn. I am far more inspired by people who fall and stand tall again, than people who never knew what it was like to even stumble. We will get far more out of life from stumbling and falling, than if we did not.
Don’t do things because it’s safe, or easy, but because it will be worth it. Know that there will be consequences and there will be outcomes – be prepared to accept the consequences and be responsible for the outcomes, whatever they might be. There will be a lesson in there somewhere.
Play it big. The biggest that you can ever play.
So don’t play it safe. Life passionately, stand by your convictions, and to quote a phrase from one of my favorite movies, “Carpe Diem!”
This is the only way I know how to see life for its full magnificence.
To be fully experienced.
I believe in and am committed to creating a fully experienced life and I have a stand for people to live fully experienced lives. Because that’s what we all have – one lifetime. At the end of that, there is no turning back to say “I wish I had.”
Don’t be stopped by people who don’t know what it means to live fully.
Seek the pathfinders, but don’t follow their path, they will not lead you. However as fellow pathfinders, they will cheer you on to discover your own path – they will come when you are ready.
I am deeply grateful for the people who are playing with me right now, and fellow pathfinders who have inspired me and cheered me on. And look forward to other people who would come along.
I look forward to our paths crossing.
So live fully. Like you’ve never lived before. We only live once.
Make it extraordinary. Make it count.