Mother’s Enjoy Celebrating Father’s Day
With Father’s Day just around the corner, families always wonder what to get dad for Father’s Day. My gift to my husband for Father’s Day this year is a tribute. My husband and I celebrated 44 years of marriage in 2013. Although this does seem like an amazingly long time to many, for us it seems like yesterday. The time has flown by so quickly, and we do pray that God grants us many more years to enjoy life together.
My husband is a stickler on certain holidays such as, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. Many friends and family would be shocked if they knew my husband’s true feelings about these two holidays.
In all the years, we have been married; my husband has only personally celebrated Mother’s Day in a personal way such as, dinner out and a card or flowers to me. The reason being, as he says, “You are not my mother, this holiday is for the kids to celebrate.” I respect his feelings, and I am not saying that his feeling are right or wrong, they are his feelings, and they have remained as such throughout all these years.
I used to remember my husband on Father’s Day with something special, and he would sit in a fog wondering way I did something special for him. He would give me a “Thank you” and say, “But, I am not your father?” I am not saying he did not appreciate what I did for him on Father’s Day, all I am saying is that he felt it unnecessary and that it was the kid’s responsibility to help dad celebrate his special day.
The last several years I have done nothing for Father’s Day personally and have respected his feelings. However, things are about to change. I am about to show my hubby how much he means to me as a great husband and father to our four kids. As Father’s Day rolls around this year and for the next several years he will be getting something special from me! He has had his way for many years now it is my time to turn the tables on this great guy.
Memories of my Hubby on Father’s Day
We married in 1969, and my husband has been there for me in all of my endeavors. While working as a nurse, full time, for 42 years my hubby supported me in raising our three children, plus one who adopted our family long ago. We call our third son our “adopted son”. He has given us a run for our money, warmed our hearts and has found it in his heart to call us mom and dad, all these years.
Two children moved into our home for a time, due to family problems, and we have since lost contact with them. A friend of eldest son Jeff, came home from college to live with us for over a year because he wanted to leave his home state and explore our state. There has been a host of other kids, such as, an old friend of our daughter who still calls us mom and dad when we make contact. Kids have moved into and out of our life over the years. Some kids have stayed in contact with us, and others have moved on to places unknown. All have created an abundance of memories that no one can take from us.
Kids liked us and chose to spend time at our home, and my husband did not mind in the least. The kids seemed drawn to my hubby as a dad and wanted to spend time with, “The Old Man.” The old man put up with a household of kids most of the time and did not seem to mind in the least. I preferred the kids to be at home, and they were for the most part, and so were all their friends.
My husband once said to me, “I do not have to say I love you, all the time. My love should show through in the things that I do for you. If I did not love you, I would not go out of my way to do the things that I do for you. Sometimes, I chose to go some of the places you chose to go and I would rather not.”
We have been together and supported each other through all the good and bad times, making a host of memories along the way. Memories are evident when the four kids, now well into adult years get together and reminisce and fall on the floor laughing until the tears flow, about things they pulled as kids and the things that mom and dad never found out about until years later. No one, especially dad tires of these memories.
There is no particular thoughtful thing that my husband has ever done for me that comes to mind. All of our married life my husband filled my life with daily thoughtful actions and deeds. He always says, “You do so much all the time I do not know how you do the stuff you do.”
In my mind, he does the same thing every day, without giving anything a second thought. My husband keeps home and car repairs at a bare minimum for us and the kids and is electronically and mechanically minded. He has the knowledge to do just about anything that needs to be done. Our family calls dad, Mr. Fixit. Now he is “Grandpa Fixit.”
The other night, we had a very late dinner past 8:00pm and I had a sink load of dishes. He said, “I am going to go water the flowers, when done outside I will do those dishes. Leave them alone! You go relax.”
Well, consequently, I could not leave those dishes for him. I went ahead and did them while he was watering the flowers. By the time he finished outside, I finished with the dishes, so we both were able to relax and do our own thing. My life is so full of thoughtful actions he directs towards me, which is why I cannot think of any one thing he has done.
On this Father’s Day, I pay tribute to my husband for the kind and thoughtful spouse and wonderful father he is and continues to be for the kids.
I thank the children Jeff (Tara), Brian, Dawn (Jay), Tommy (Cami) and grandchildren Emily and Ian, for giving to their dad the proudness he feels in his heart for what and who they have become and the lifetime of memories they have given to their dad, on this Father’s Day 2013.
Happy Father’s Day Glen