Today, I would like to discuss the topic of fear because many of my closest colleagues, including friends, have some form of fear that’s inhibiting them from achieving success. If you’ve been studying self-improvement for quite some time, you would know that some of our foremost self-improvement leaders define F.E.A.R. as “false evidence appearing real.”
To me, this is somewhat of an inaccurate statement for several reasons. First, fear is real and it’s an emotional state that was ingrained in us hundreds of years ago. Back in the tribal days, one of the most feared situations for any tribe member was rejection. Reason being is that rejection from your tribe meant that you were abandoned by the tribe which ultimately led to death because you were left alone to fend for yourself. Therefore, members of any tribe feared rejection the most because it was a synonym for death and who wants to be die alone in the wilderness.
Now hundreds of years later, people are naturally born with fear and the root cause of it is most likely the “fear of rejection.” People are afraid of being rejected so much that most don’t even try to do the things that would help them achieve the success and life that they were meant to have. Regardless if the fear of rejection is associated with being turned down by someone they love, or the rejection of a business proposal, this negative emotional state-of-being is essentially paralyzing these individuals from achieving success.
Fortunately for me, I never had much growing up. Therefore, I had no fear of anything, including rejection, because things couldn’t get much worse than they were. Because of this, I worked extremely hard and was willing to try anything and everything as long as it took me one step closer to success and happiness. What’s the worse that could happen? Basically I’d be broke again and starting back at square one. I was fine with this fact just as long as I gave it my all. With this in mind, not only did I embrace rejection but also success because of my state-of-mind and living conditions. This in turn, has led me onto the road of success because of my lack of fear and desire for achieving success and happiness.
Honestly, I believe this is why many of the most successful people in the world actually came from humble beginnings. Due to this, they had no fear of rejection or fear itself, thus they were willing to work hard to do what was needed to take them onto the road of success, hence their current achievements in life. Although they may not have had the same living conditions as I did, one thing’s for certain – we all shared the same mentality and did not let fear conquer us but instead embraced fear, rejection, and success.
Of course, this is not to say that failures and rejections do not occur in life because they do. You just need to ensure that you continue to pick yourself up and try again. As we’re aware, one of the key characteristics of successful people is persistence – having the determination and will to continue without losing any enthusiasm in the process.
There are several methods for embracing fear and rejection. You could have the same mentality as me, or you could act as if the rejection has already happened. Therefore, if it does happen, you won’t be surprised to the point that it paralyzes you to continue. But if it doesn’t happen, you’ll take another step towards leading a life filled with success and happiness.
So get out of your shell and let’s conquer fear, along with embracing rejection and success – you deserve it!
Cheers and I’ll see you on the road to success!