Online dating is quickly becoming a popular way to meet local singles without having to waste your entire weekend at the bar scene. Guys enjoy using online dating due to the fact we can pre-screen before agreeing to a date, we can see if you have similar interests, and we can respond to you only if we want to. Landing a first date online can be a daunting task since it requires you to have a virtual conversation with someone you’ve never met in order to get his attention and the eventual first date. Learn what guys are looking for with online dating in order to make a good first impression that leads to a first date.
Realize the importance of the first message
Online dating makes it so easy to talk to a wide variety of singles and go on many first dates in order to find the person you are looking for. Guys look for the girl that takes time to read his profile, comments on either his pictures or write up and then asks several “get-to-know-you” questions. Don’t blow your opportunity with him by sending a one to three word first message. We are not looking for you to write a novel, but we do look for someone that can provide some first message depth.
Timely responses on follow up messages
Guys are just as nervous as you are when we start messaging someone we met through online dating. Most of us are looking for something long-term, or at the very least someone to hang out with and see if a relationship comes from it. You may be tempted to delay your response to our message to avoid coming across as needy. However, this may back fire as we are anticipating your response and don’t receive it for over 24-hours. Try to make timely follow up within two hours of receiving a message, or at the very minimum, 24-hours. If you don’t have access to a smartphone or a computer during the day, you can ask for his phone number and text him instead of using the online portal.
Are you upfront about what you want?
When my roommates and I decided to try online dating we found ourselves bombarded with messages, but many of them seemed shallow on the surface. It’s great to talk about your interests and where you went to school, but this only works well in the first few messages. After the first couple messages you should complement our photo or write up in order to get our interest. Guys like complements as much as girls and we are a sucker for a sweet talker. After you get his attention this way, then tell him you want to get to know him better and ask if he would want to go on a date with you.
Picking the first date venue
The first date venue is extremely important, as you want to pick something neutral that gets him to talk to you, but at the same time makes him want to actually go on the date. Read our picks for best first ideas for guys, here. The cliché first date dinner is perfect because you can get to know your date in one of the most neutral venues possible. If you decide to go for dinner, try to be adventurous and order something completely crazy with your date doing the same. The goal is to have something to talk about and showing that you can be adventurous, anywhere is going to grab his attention towards you. Don’t pick a first date venue that discourages collaboration and communication, such as the movies. However, something like a drive-in movie thea