There are so many dating sites out there vying for your business that finding one that fits you may be a daunting task! I too have been down that path, and tried many paid (match.com, eharmony.com) and free sites (okcupid.com, pof.com) before finding the love of my life. Where did I find him? On a free dating site!
I spent hundreds of dollars on paid sites and got no where. First one I went too was Eharmony. Why? They had TV commercials, must be legit right? Honestly, the site works well and you’ll get plenty of matches that (in most cases) will work as long as you are BOTH 100% COMPLETELY HONEST about yourself when you do the quiz at your account setup. Don’t skimp, don’t “fudge the details”, and definitely don’t lie. But also be prepared for the longest self analysis you’ll probably do in awhile! I was matched with more people who DIDN’T respond than did, which led me to wonder how many were un-paid and just couldn’t respond because you can only communicate with a paid subscription? And after a year+ I was still single and looking.
After not getting anywhere with the paid ones I started looking into free dating sites, and a friend recommended okcupid.com to me. Now, since this is a free one you can communicate with anyone at any time without having to pay anything. GLORIOUS! They also use a “matching” system as well, based on your answers to questions they create or even user created questions (these ones can be a bit perverted!). You’ll get a match/friend/enemy % that will change as you answer more questions. You do not need to answer a single question, but if you do be honest. Also keep in mind that being a free site you will most definitely come across more “just looking for a fun time” people than on a paid site (but even those are not free of this type!).
So here is a breakdown of my pro’s and con’s between the two main sites I mentioned:
- Matching Pro: Does a great job of matching you up with compatible people based on personality and most of them are looking for a committed relationship.
- Matching Con: Not so great on matching you with someone with similar interests, you can’t actively search.
- Cost Pro: It is NOT god awful expensive (can be $60/month…) but can be cheaper then hitting a bar/club regularly!
- Cost Con: To get the best rate you have to pay for an entire year at once.
- Account setup Con: Literally the longest account setup I have ever done. Between the self analysis questions and then your profile details you’ll be at it for awhile. Felt a lot like an extensive job application.
- Matching Pro: Answer enough questions and you get matched with people who have similar interests and personalities, you can also actively search based on specific requirements you set (age, location, sex, height, etc).
- Matching Con: The questions aren’t as in-depth as eharmony so you also get matched up with people that won’t work out in the long run and higher chance of meeting people not interested in committed relationships.
- Cost Pro: It’s free! You can communicate with whoever, whenever!
- Account Setup Pro: It’s quick and easy, and you are not required to answer any questions if you don’t want too (but not doing so will affect your matches).
- Account Setup Con: You don’t have to put any info in and neither do other people…so you run the chance of coming across some blank profiles (no pics, no interests, no details…).
You could meet the love of your life on a free or paid dating site, in a bar/club, at the library, at the zoo, at work, ANYWHERE. My personal experience was through a free dating site, and yours may be too. I wish you luck, and thanks for reading!