No human being is perfect, yet many yearn for it. Connecting with your child from day one is perhaps the closest to perfection.
Connection: Connecting with my son the first time I saw his tiny face nestled in my hand was crucial in creating a life time bond.
I always recall both mom and dad keeping connected with me at all times without suffocating my individuality and freedom. Whenever they spoke to me, it was complete eye to eye contact in a most honest, loving way. This bond that was created from as far as I can remember was the defining factor of trust and security in our relationship.
Open Conversation: Having no secrets within the family was another go to comfort zone for my siblings and I. We learnt and grew from each other’s mistakes, the good, the bad and the ugly. This system worked so well for us, it became our mores code. We can still come to each other to this date and expect honest, comforting opinions without judgment or shame.
Honesty: It is easy to be honest when good times roll. But believing in the right path and decision no matter how bad the situation might be is a strength I truly acquired from my parents. Honesty comes in many forms and faces. Whether it’s simple encounters with friends or petty mischief, stay honest no matter what the world throws at you. It reaps in the long run.
Financial Independence: To stay ahead of the game, my parents forever drilled this saying into our heads: “We buy things we don’t need, with money we don’t have, to impress people we don’t like”
Yikes, sounds to the point without any gibberish! Stay grounded.
I saved whatever I could, even if it meant forgoing expensive items on occasions. It taught me a sense of responsibility that I hold dear to this day. And, it sure pays off during times of emergency.
Know who you are: I remember my high school years, where to be somebody you had to go with the flow….in other words dress to impress with name brands. Even though these so called ‘name brands’ more often than not, were assembled in China or Bangladesh.
I followed my parent’s counseling and created my own style. It did not carry designer brand logos to create my personality. I was confident enough to create my own personality without having to have someone else’s name attached to my clothing to define who I must be.
Thank you mom and dad, your parenting skill hand me downs are timeless, I will follow through so generations to come can benefit too!