I know that coping with breakups is a real pain the neck but dealing with it is not about grieving and mourning and bitter resentment. In fact, I’m actually surprised at how some people (myself included) would often deal with a breakup.
I didn’t realize that even I have different ways when it comes to coping with breakups. I never paid much attention to it but when I asked my friends and they came up with different answers. Different as in not just “find your confidence, grieve, live again, blah, blah blah.”
Yes, they are all helpful and yes, those are what you need to do when you’re in a breakup. But we all have different ways of dealing with this stuff. If you’ve read the previous article, I promised there’s more to come and here it is!
1. Sex and the City
One of my favorite shows and one of the my best friends share my interest when it comes to this show. You kind of see a whole new perspective when it comes to dating. When my friend was getting over her ex, this was the show she watched. I guess something about watching trendy women live their life, have sex, get dumped, dump men, eat at the best restaurants, meet more men, have sex again and breakup can lift her spirits.
2. Dear Karma, thank you being a bitch to my ex!
Gina, one of my closest friends, got dumped and she said that when her ex broke up with her, she would say “don’t worry, Karma’s a bitch!” That’s her way of dealing. She doesn’t plot revenge, she doesn’t get in his face, she just waits for Karma to strike. And one day, she did. When she saw her ex again, he’s got beer gut and he looks older. My friend, on the other hand, lost weight and she looked better than ever. And so she says “thank you Karma, for being a bitch to my ex!”
My friend Keith said that while women drink martinis and talk about their feelings, some men handle things differently. He said he would go to “hibernation.” As in, swear off dating for a while. It sounds depressing, but he says it paves the way to a better single life. Again, it makes sense. Ever heard the phrase “sleep it off?” I guess he “sleeps it off” until he feels better.
4. Impromptu fight
Women may cry and seek the support of her friends. But one of my friends said that when he was coping with a bad breakup, sometimes he just needs something, or someone, to hit. And since he likes basketball, he would play the game, pick a fight, throw some punches, etc. Then, when it’s all over, he would sit at home, alone, and drink his beer. Hey, you gotta let out some steam, right?
5. Listening to music that practically says “you go girl!”
Unlike some women, I don’t listen to sentimental music when I’m coping with a breakup. The last thing I want is more tears. No, I would listen to music that says “he’s a loser, you don’t need him, you go girl!” I mean, hello? Why on earth would I listen to songs that would only remind me of how miserable I am?
6. “You have much to learn, young Jedi”
One of my friends said that his way of coping with a breakup is actually listening to his older cousins’ Tales of Tragedy. How they met women, broke up with women, dumped women, stood women up, got dumped by women, so much to learn! I guess being older and having more experience does make you wiser. Nothing wrong with listening to your friends but sometimes, it’s nice to hear how your “elders” messed up and how they dealt with it. It inspired him to forget what’s-her-face.
7. Skydiving, bungee jumping, water-sports, oh my!
My friend Andrew says that when his cousin got dumped by his girl, he was suddenly into extreme sports. He would try wake-boarding, skydiving, even bungee jumping. He’s not sure, but he’s hoping that his cousin isn’t really suicidal. While some men like impromptu fights to let off steam, he likes the adrenaline rush.
8. Slumber party!
You’re never too old for a slumber party! When one of my high school friends broke up with her man, she invited us to spend the weekend at a hotel. She had a huge discount. Magic words! And so we spend the night with a couple of beers, chips, chocolates, and talked about men and how they’re scum, etc. Mind you, we did not paint each other’s toenails.
9. The “I’m pregnant with your baby” blackmail
Now, some women have trouble letting go. While I was scanning the Internet, I came across this site where this woman got dumped and because she can’t let her ex go, she scared the heck out of him saying that she’s carrying his baby. Okay, I know that this article is about the “best ways to cope with a breakup,” but I couldn’t resist throwing a bad seed here. This is one coping method that you shouldn’t do. If you think “f— ’till you drop” is gross, at least you’re being honest with yourself and your body’s – needs. But this is just low.
I have a co-worker before who broke up with her boyfriend. They weren’t living together, but their apartments were close. That means that seeing each other can be inevitable. Now, that’s not healthy especially when she sees him flirting with these sluts – er – other women. So what’s the plan? She moved! Now she doesn’t have to see his sorry ass again. Simple method yet effective!
So there you have it. If you’re worried that your ways of coping with breakups are weird, don’t think much of it. We all have our quirks in life. If your way of dealing with this breakup helps you recover, then who’s to tell you you’re doing it wrong? Just as long as it doesn’t involve anyone literally dying, I guess you’re homefree!