There is nothing wrong with being single. You have all the time for yourself. You are free to do whatever you want to do without the fear of hurting someone. And most of all you are saved from all complicated relationships that only bring heart aches. Being single is not really a problem. However, whenever you see your friends being happy with their partners, you try to wonder, what would happiness feel like when you are with someone, especially if you’ve been in the NBSB zone for years? Then you ask yourself, why are you so different from your friends or from other people. Perhaps the answer for these questions is that, you are doing exactly the following lists that seem to keep you from finding your one true happiness and love.
Your only social life is fb, twitter, instagram and so on
How many real friends (not fb friends) do you have? When was the last time you went out with them? Or went out with their other circle of friends? When was the last time you introduced yourself to a stranger? Or joined a group or organization where you can socialize and communicate with others instead of sitting in your house liking and commenting on every photo of your fb friends?
The reason why most people are single is because they don’t simply go out and introduce themselves to other people or other group. If you are trying to get a partner, you should realize that you should expose yourself to the world so that the world will be able to notice that you exist. Exposing yourself to other people or group, increases your chance of you meeting the person you would probably end up to.
You are waiting for that special friend of yours
Perhaps you are not the person who would go out and party and meet other people. You would rather spend quiet and simple moments with friends you trusted or your long friend whom until now you have a crush on. And you are hoping that within these quiet and simple moments you spend together, something will develop and turn into something like more-than-friendship status.
What you are doing is a way how to get FRIENDZONED. You’ve been friends for a very long time. Don’t you think that that “long time friendship” means that you are just good as FRIENDS? You know him/her very well, and so you know what he/she wants.
Lucky are those who end up with their bestfriends. And for those who do not, the least thing you can do is to accept the fact that you will just be friends and you are better off that way. Stop wasting your time from waiting. Remember if he/she likes you, he/she will definitely show and say it. But beware of the sweet nothings and actions that your friends show you, it might just be their nature and you are simply misinterpreting it. If unsure, better have the courage to ask so you’ll know when to stop waiting and when to start moving on.
You set unrealistic standards
There is nothing wrong with setting standards. But make sure that they are realistic. Because it may be too late for you to realize that what you have set for standards do not really exist in real life. Not only you will disappoint yourself but you also give yourself more reason to be lonely and be alone forever.
Not all people end up with the person they actually dreamed off. If that happens then every one’s love story will be as boring as boy-meets-girl-end-of-story.
Sometimes we become happy not because we were able to get what we want, but because we learn to accept things that are beyond our expectations. Accepting the qualities and flaws of a person is one of the most fulfilling feelings in the world.
Standards will be your guide, but these do not have to stop you from discovering other qualities that might actually compliment yours. In the end, you will fall in love not because of standards but because of love that defies everything.
You are a hard core snob
It’s nice to tame a wild tiger. But if you don’t want to be tamed, you’ll end up eating the person, trying to tame you. Thus hurting not only him/her but also yourself.
You don’t have to change for someone to like you. If you are snobbish, then you are snobbish. But sometimes we need to be a little sensitive with our actions. We might not realize it but maybe people are starting to shut themselves from you because that is what you are trying to convey to them. Try to be nice to people even if it is hard. Being nice sometimes will do you no harm. It might even lead you to meeting new friends or better meeting the one.
You pretend to be strong when you are not
There is nothing wrong with being strong. In fact that is a good and positive quality that no one should be ashamed of. Not all people are capable of being one because it takes a lot of experience and pain for someone to be truly strong. Being strong does not only mean that you do not know how to give up. Being strong also means being dependable.
However, we must realize that there are times that we should learn to accept help from other people. Don’t try to pretend that it’s alright to be alone, because it’s not. Sometimes we have to open up with the idea that strong and dependent people also need someone to take care of them. From this, you will be able to open yourself to others.
You are too much of yourself.
Living in a conservative country, does not simply give ALL girls the privilege to sit in their sanctuary and wait for long lines of boys where they can pick the best one or for boys, where they can choose from wide variety of beautiful girls.
The traditional Filipino courting is really sweet and romantic. But we are in the new millennium and not ALL girls and boys are going to experience this. I am not saying that there are people who don’t deserve to be courted. What I am trying to point out is that, we should try to play our part in the courting process. There is nothing wrong with minor advances that will give sign to the person you like that you are interested. Remember that it needs two to tango. You have to make an effort for you to be desirable. Too much of yourself – is a total turn off.
You are hopeless romantic
We don’t live in world with handsome vampires, hot werewolves, fairies and angels nor are we in a world full of fantasy and happy endings. Stop thinking that your love story will be the same as the story you read in paper backs, or you watched in movies. These are made-up stories with fictional characters.
You have your own REAL story to make. And your story is more interesting than those stories in the big screen and in paper. Your story is real and you get to play the part of the hero/heroine. So stop dreaming of Christian Grey or Anastacia Steele, and start meeting someone who can play a new character in your life that you will love.
Being single is more than just a status in your most used social network sites. It is not just what you write or declare in public documents and legal papers. Being single is your opportunity of discovering yourself and your potentials. It is when you must know how to love and appreciate yourself before sharing your life with someone.