We all go through school angst. Words said by classmates can either break us or make us, and sometimes both. Our younger years in class can be cruel and most do not escape some sort of ridicule and infamy that seems to outlive everything they try to conquer in their later years.
People are bullied for their weight, their height, their interests, and even what their parents do for a living. Rising above that seems near impossible, but there are techniques to save our self-esteem during our formative years.
Humor always wins
Combating insults with humor is key. Learning to diffuse a bad situation by using wit will always make you feel empowered and your bullies…not so much. Someone yelling, “You’re too fat to ride this bus!” can always be deflected with, “Hey, it’s not my fault your mom is mad that I ate all her Twinkies.” In no way is this reverse bullying; it is a way to make hateful people stop for a minute and realize their own hateful words. This is the moment that you smile at them and not say another word no matter their taunts.
School clubs are always a winning choice
Joining a school or community organization will not only boost your self-esteem in the interests that you have, it will also give you instant back-up. It is much easier to make friends who share like-minded passions. You won’t feel as alone as you do when those certain people try to make your life hell for their own amusement. The benefits of social clubs are extremely important for many reasons.
Anger is a vicious circle
It’s common for someone to want to lash out at their tormentors through rumors, revenge, or worse. Keying that mean blonde’s car is not going to make you feel better, especially if the police are knocking at your door. Punching a loud-mouth will most likely get you a black eye and suspension from school. Rumors are detrimental and cause lasting repercussions; they are silent and invisible bullies that can last for a person’s lifetime inside their subconscious.
School is tough. We encounter many different people who affect our lives in good ways and bad. Hateful and disparaging words can last a lifetime in someone’s head, even for the person who said them. The ability to heal from words, even into our adulthood, isn’t that simple. Support groups and organizations are always available to take your call if you need it. Being part of the solution, no matter how much you have been taunted, teased, and ridiculed will help prevent the circle of hatred that exists in every school.