I get asked quite often about the fate of my blog when it comes to finding love: “Ty, what happens to Single and Happy, when you’re no longer single?” While this question shows the hope others have in me, it is also accompanied by a serious and rather wrinkle-forming look of concern.
(When I explain how I’d love to continue to share stories of other single and happy women if and when I’m off the market, it’s almost as if I gave the wrong answer. It’s as if the answer is supposed to be “The blog will die. That’s it, the blog dies. It dies a slow death, with a Livestream memorial and everything. Thanks for playing.” But, I digress…)
Nowadays I am feeling like I’m growing closer to answering this question. But, don’t get too happy (or nervous about losing me as a singles poster-child) because I am only considering the possibilities of being in a relationship. Recently I kind-of-sort-of discussed how a long distance relationship could be of interest to me. I apologize now to those “Sh* t or get off the pot” types, but I am not quite really to go all in. I’m only considering it.
Consideration could teach us a lot, by the way. In a January study of automotive consumers and their spending habits, — don’t worry; you don’t have to read the study right now! — it was revealed that while 63 percent of those surveyed considered buying into a particular make or model, only 20 percent of the them actually purchased that brand. The point of the study is to figure out how to make the consideration phase turn into something more positive. (for the automotive company, of course!)
If the study holds true for other things, this means that my consideration could keep me single and happy. So, whose job is it to make the unsure scale tilt towards romance? Mine? His? The Lord’s? All I know is that I took my sweet time buying my car. I compared the pros and cons, thought about life after the new car smell disappeared (the honeymoon phase, if you will) and relied on the expertise of the mechanically-inclined people in my life for direction. I think you know where I’m going with this…
The take-away: Don’t look at consideration as a sign of indecisiveness. There is nothing wrong with weighing options for a ridiculous amount of time. The last time I rushed into a relationship…well…have you been following my blog since the beginning?
Thinking it over is a practice that is underrated. Which areas of your life could use a few more moments of consideration?
I’m Tyjuana (ty-WA-na). I am single, I am happy and I’m blogging all about it on www.singleandhappyonline.com and writing fictitious stuff in my upcoming novel, Single and Happy in Charlotte: Nothing Like a Writer Scorned. I’m on Twitter, too at http://twitter.com/singleandhappy1. Holla!