Breast Cancer Awareness Month in October gives importance and history to the women fighting one of the many diseases in this world. As we celebrate October towards women stressing the awareness of Breast Cancer, let’s give thanks to women on another date — Single Mother’s Day.
Single Mother’s Day has been the unofficial holiday since 2010, and that’s because barely anyone knows about this unofficial holiday except for a select few women. Since October 23rd, 2010 I’ve selected random women in my circle of acquaintances, posting a message on their Facebook page about how I appreciate them standing up in this world, fighting to take care of their kids on their own.
Single Mother’s Day is not about quick fly-by thank you messages leaving a void for the rest of the year; this day is a reminder, month in and out about the pressures of single motherhood. I take joy buying moms various gifts like massage gift cards, bath products and random items to make a woman…simply feel like a woman. I envision this day to be a chain link throughout the U.S.; to naturally enjoy going out buying that one gift, for that one or few women, and leaving an in-lasting impression to where she feel like this day was Mother’s Day or Christmas all over again.
Fantasia Barrino said it best with her 2004 song ‘Baby Mama’, “It’s about time we had our own song, Don’t know what took so long, ‘Cuz now a days it’s like a badge of honor, To be a baby mama”. With that being said, it shouldn’t take long for this day to get acknowledged, to be added to the list of other women’s holidays like:
• International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women
• International Women’s Day
• Mother’s Day
• National Day of the Girl
• Women’s Equality Day
• Women’s History Month
The first year I started this envision, I acknowledged an old friend from the suburban cities of H.E.B. North Texas area. Then the second year was two classmates in my culinary school in Houston, TX. The third year was a personal choice, going to my mother being a single mom of five. This year, my selected winners is a friend living in the Seattle, WA area, also we have a Dallas, TX native, then one residing in Richmond, VA, and the last one is another culinary classmate I went to school with in Houston. These four anonymous women, from what I know have gone through great lengths to not only show great motherhood, but show genuine love only a mother can give.
According to the U.S. Census Bureau,
Out of 12.2 million single parent families in 2012, more than 80% were headed by single mothers. That’s 10,322,000 single mothers in the U.S. alone going through everything imaginable good or bad. We need these winners to let the other 10 million single mothers know their winners also, and bring hope that their day is coming soon. I will continue to fight every year until we can make this day possible, because women have a strong voice in this, but men can make it even stronger. As a man myself, I experienced this first hand as my mom raised two boys, and three girls without the assistance of food stamps or unemployment.
In this world, to think big; you have to start off small knowing that if you never give up, it will be the small things you do that makes someone’s day even more special, and that small contribution might lead you towards that single mother needing to feel special. This is my vision for the single mothers dealt a bad hand in this society, hoping this small gesture will bring them a full house one day.