You may have the wisest of friends, worst of enemies or the best companion for life. Yet we always believe that the best advice one can get is from the oldest friend of all… Mother.
A wise man told me, if you want to know how much your parents love you, make a mistake. You may not dare to commit a crime but when your silly faults turn out to be drastic; she will be your savior of all times.I know there is a phase where mom seems to be the biggest enemy of all, hindrance to our independence, a complaint book to dad or someone who totally hates us for looking beautiful. Every girl passes this stage where mom is considered as an ignorant brat, when all her caring advice appear like orders and each time she warns you about your friends, you fairly believe she hates you.
I know she is old; she can’t use your iPhone, can’t order pizza online or like you on Facebook. However, she has seen enough of life, faced with the same emotions you experience each day from being an ugly insecure teen to the most wonderful mother, from bearing a short-tempered dad to a least-helping husband. She can read your mind, reciprocate it with minute corrections. I can interpret this from the lives of most of my friends who are greatly influenced by their mothers, be it in a positive way or the other!
This is clearly an analysis into the families with educated and employed woman. I am a complete feminist, a working woman, yet to be mother, who entirely believes that career is as equally important as family to any woman. I can make myself completely understand that women have changed and their needs have increased in a broader perspective that exceeded geographical borders and continents. We are successful at all levels and proved our worth far across the restrictions. We have rose above orthodox thoughts and proved to be equally potential in this viable world.
A mom, who rarely cooks and relies on the maid, cannot have a daughter who understands the importance of cooking for the family to create a lively bond. A working mom, who seldom has time for the kids, can’t teach a daughter how relations are an integral part of our life. Short-tempered, intolerant, adamant mom can be nothing but a bad example to a daughter who is yet to be a complete woman. We consider mothers to be the embodiments of patience and tolerance. Yet the changing time and work culture has created a new definition all together. Mothers, nowadays, should question themselves as to what efforts they are able to put into the child’s growth and development. Trust me, this is not about the Pediasure or the Complan growth plan, this is about the time a mother is able to spend in influencing a child to perfection. I rarely see the emotional attachment instead there seems to be only a compulsion to fulfill each other’s needs.
I know the traditions are boring and they are no longer valued in this fake world, but India, as a nation is born and brought up by our culture that considers the mother equal to almighty. The society has been digging so much out of us that we have lost the warmth and affections that once used to be a born trait. We conquered the greatest heights, yet we forgot the basics on which our feet were once and still rested. Social status has always been so important that we rarely have time for the emotional attachment to the kids and family. My point, here is, why a mother has changed so much that maids and crèche have more time for the kids and breast feeding is considered as a burden to beauty. I can see people argue that there is no such thing and mothers are always the same. I accept that, for a reason, yet I contend that when the mother is not changed, why her perspective is changed. I see scores of mothers each day, advising their daughters on how to take control in the in-laws family, how not to be an understanding wife, making sure they are on the upper hand all the time and how not to share the financial burden of the husband in the interest of personal financial security. I understand the point that a mother might be insecure that in this unsafe world, where woman are being ill-treated irrespective of the positions they hold, her daughter might face problems. But why can’t, in the same case, the same mom teach her daughter to deal with diverse kinds of people she faces, yet being a responsible wife.
You need not give up your career and dreams; lose your personal space or stay devoted to being a home maker. Still you can spare time for your family, for when you look back into your life there shouldn’t be an unsuccessful mom who regrets the moments she missed- playing with her kids, cooking for her husband or an untold bedtime story for her daughter. On the other hand, an onsite assignment can be an amicable achievement but nothing matters much when your kid can call you a role model and proudly say that in her every step, you were always there. I strongly believe that behind every mistake that we make, there is a mom who didn’t imbue the right morals into our heads.