If i was given the chance to go back and tell my younger self one thing then there is one thing that would have completely changed everything! Id scream into my own face CONFIDENCE! Growing up as a shy, quiet and nervous teen having more confidence in my self and my own abilities would definitely have improved my life greatly. Clearly having more confidence would have helped with a wide variety of areas such as relationships, jobs, friends and just generally being a part of society.
Confidence is a big problem for most teenagers at one point or another whilst growing up, some realize the importance of the matter at an earlier age but some like me took a long time to realize and start believing in myself enough to put myself out there and get what i want. For me becoming confident enough to apply for jobs, get my first girlfriend, volunteer in local schools and to feel comfortable going to night clubs with friends took a long time and i was in my very late teens before any of this happened. It seemed at the time to be an epiphany that occurred one night and i realized if i wanted to be truly “happy” i’d have to ignore the controlling sub-conscious side keeping me away from the potentially awkward and uncomfortable situations and instead force myself into these situations and stop caring how other people viewed me.
I was always very self conscious, i felt ugly, that my body wasn’t well proportioned and that my clothes always looked stupid on me. If i could go back now i’d tell myself to stop believing this and to quite frankly stop caring because 99% of people wont even notice the things i see wrong with myself and even if they did who cares. I really believe that if i could have cared less from the start id be a lot further in life now and i would have had a happier teenage life.
I think from what iv already said if i followed my own advice id have had the confidence to meet up with girls have relationships, this was always a problem actually having the confidence to even start a conversation and then make “the move”. I was terrible at job interviews and now since i gained more confidence in myself and realized i deserve the job and i can do it just as good maybe even better than all the other candidates. If i had carried out my life how i do now then i could have started feeling better about myself and generally being happier because id have the things i so badly wanted but always stopped myself from getting.
For anyone reading this please believe in your own abilities and have confidence in everything you do because it really can and will change your life for the better!