The world is filled with advice coming from peers who are trying to be nice. It seems that people assume their thoughts on a certain matter is wanted. Personally, I hate advice. Especially when it is about raising my children.
Having grown up in a strict family, I have always been a person who likes to have everything in order. I plan my day ahead so that I know exactly how much time to spend on each task, leaving me with a stress free day. I am a stay at home mother, but I incorporate many activities outside of the home so my children and I are not trapped inside four walls. While we are out and about, I like for my two year old and ten month old to be on their best behavior.
I do not see how this is unreasonable, but I have had multiple people ask me, “Why are you so strict?”
Here is how a typical shopping trip at the grocery store goes, for example. Upon arriving, I grab a shopping cart, which I hate using by the way, and wipe it down thoroughly to ensure it is clean. I am over obsessive about things being clean because I fear my children getting sick. I have received the “over protective” bit a few times as well. I put them both in the cart and tell them to be quiet while entering the store. Knowing it is loud in there anyway and my ten month old has no idea what I am talking about, it makes me feel at ease letting them know where we are, what we are doing, and how they should act.
As we walk through the isles, my son is usually starting to make noise five minutes into the trip, so I tell him to quiet down and stop talking to strangers. He is the type that likes to converse with everyone in sight. There is a time and place for him to do that and I do not feel like strangers are the best people to be talking to. Also, if he sees something he wants, such as a toy, I immediately tell him no. Seeing all of the other parents around that merely say “no” is an understatement. They leave their children to throw a huge fit and don’t pay any attention to them, hoping their kids will follow after.
When I say “no” it is firm, looking at my child, explaining the reasons why he can not have it, and going on our way. It is frustrating when parents do not discipline their children. This is another thing that has been pointed out to me by others, that I “discipline them to much”. Discipline at a young age is a key factor that plays an important role as they get older.
As with everyone, there is some things we just can’t all agree on. I handle this “advice” they give me with a simple head nod, never taking it into consideration. Whether you do not have children at all or you are a great great grandmother, I don’t want to hear any of what you have to say about raising my kids. Showing respect by staying out of others business is the greatest respect of all.