Being a parent is a gift like that of no other. However, for some it just doesn’t come as easily as it does for others. There are many different ways to go the route of parenthood, but they aren’t always accessible by those who desire to have a child. This article focuses on the pros and cons of foster care, which is the way that a lot of people go to receive the greatest gift they could ever receive.
Foster care has a lot of perks.The first and foremost is that you become a parent. You are blessed with the joy of taking care of a child and seeing them grow and develop and become their own person. You are the one with the responsibility of implementing new thoughts and ideas into their ever expanding brains. It’s a daunting task because it takes so much responsibility, but it is also a great feeling that you are wanted and needed.
Another is that yes, you are helping a child in need. This should never be your main reason for doing foster care, that reason should lie solely in that you want to build your family. Going into it for any other reason could possibly lead to disappointment when you don’t feel that the child is showing enough gratitude in what you have done or are doing. Foster Care needs to be approached in a different light. You need to just know that what you are doing is a golden thing, without expecting anything in response.
Thirdly, there is financial compensation. It is not wise to expect to live off of this income, as it’s not much and it’s just there to alleviate the costs of taking care of an additional child. However, it is helpful to first time parents to see that it takes this amount of money to care for a child and helps them to plan for the future.
There are also some cons that come along with foster care. The first and primary one is that foster care is not guaranteed. You fall in love with these children because you can’t help it, and then they could be returned to their biological home or sent to live with a family member. Many people have suffered the devastation that occurs when this takes place, and it is never an easy one to navigate through, but is a very real possibility.
Another is that it will take some time for the child to bond with you, if they do at all. Many people have these beautiful images of the child instantly falling in love with them and they go on to live a happy and welcoming life, and that’s just not reality. Reality is that these children have just been ripped from the only home they have ever known, and it will take some time for them to feel comfortable in yours and with you and your family. Be patient and understanding of them and their situation.
Thirdly, the financial compensation is not always enough to reimburse the cost of caring for a child. This is why it is so important for people to go into foster care for the right reasons, as this will not cover things like taking the child on vacation with you, or buying toys for them. These children will more than likely come with nothing at all, or very little, and will need a lot of necessities.
There is a poster out there that says that foster care is “the hardest thing you’ll love to do”. That is something to always keep in mind. Although it’s difficult and at times doesn’t feel like it’s worth it or that you’re getting anywhere, you are doing what you are for a reason. Take a sharp look at that reason and remember that everything happens for a reason, and some day your work will be appreciated.