It’s not uncommon these days for former lovers to be reunited again if the breakup wasn’t bad. There are some precautions you should take before rekindling an old romance and here they are.
1. Understand why you guys broke up in the first place.
It’s good to analyze why you broke up in the first place so you know what you’re getting yourself into. If there were many reasons you broke up it might not be a good idea to get back together again. If the break up was mutual or on friendly terms it might be a good idea to give it another try to see how it works now. I personally think it’s a good idea to become friends first before fully being committed to each other again.
2. Don’t talk about the lovers you had when you guys were broken up.
It’s best just to not talk about who you were with when you guys were broken up. Doing so can cause jealousy and end up turning into a competition. If you seriously want to work on being together again make it all about just you two and no one else.
3. Don’t bring up old fights.
If there was something that you guys fought about in the past just let it go and move on from it. There’s no need to bring up any past grudges or annoyances. This new rekindled relationship is meant to be a fresh start. Sometimes it’s hard to let things go which I sometimes admittedly do. I think this also reflects on the age you were during your first relationship with this person and now how old you are the second time around. Sometimes both people in the relationship just need to mature a little more.
4. Don’t let your family and friends bad mouth you, your partner, or your rekindled relationship.
Sometimes after a breakup things are said that may come back to haunt you now that you have rekindled the relationship. Let your family and friends know what’s up so they don’t say bad things about your partner or get the wrong impression. You want happy, healthy, and supportive vibes. I’ve always tried to keep the negative out of conversations when I talk to friends and family about past relationships. Mainly because I do believe people can change, if they want to, so in case I do end up becoming friends, or more, with an old flame I don’t have to hear “but you said that they…”. Also it’s not a good habit to bad mouth anyone in general. What goes around comes around.
5. Feel free to recreate old dates. Go to places that bring back good memories.
Recreate old dates that were memorable. Visit places that have meaning to your relationship. This will help you both remember the good times and even create new happy memories. This may even make the new rekindled spark stronger.
6. Communication is key.
This is very important with all relationships. Keep the conversation going and let your partner know how you are feeling and if you want to continue the relationship or not. You should find out soon enough if this is working for you or not. If you just aren’t feeling it try stepping back and being just friends for awhile. It’s okay to be just friends. Most likely your partner will be happy that you are upfront about it and not dragging through a relationship that you really don’t want.
7. Try something new to keep the relationship fresh and feeling new.
You want to keep things fresh and you can do that by trying something new together. Maybe before you weren’t well financially but now are and therefore you guys can finally take the trip you used to dream about. Pick up a new hobby you both can do together such as painting or photography. Try a new dish that before you guys would have never tried.