Just when we thought they were all happy with their lives and new partners, we have another reason to remember the sordid, icky details of the Brad Pitt-Jennifer Aniston saga. More importantly, we realize that even after all these years, there’s still so very much to learn about how you deal with the end of a relationship. For example, you can never stop learning the importance of playing it cool, how to move on and of course another critical lesson: once you’ve said something, it’s really quite hard to take it back.
Are you with me yet? If you aren’t quite caught up, let me do the honors: according to an interview in the June/July issue of Esquire magazine, actor and hot father of six Brad Pitt dives pretty deep into his past, claiming that a decade ago (when he was still married to Jennifer Aniston) he made a choice to clean up his act and not to “squander opportunities”. That is, implying that he was blowing his life while being married to her — and trying to make something work he knew wasn’t right. Kind of a painful thing to hear if you were his other half. Who wants to hear that their mate was at their worst while they were together?
While it’s not the first time Brad and Jennifer have made less-than-flattering remarks about their marriage, it’s without a doubt crystal clear that this latest jab at their marriage offers up some pretty valuable lessons — ones I know that have been pretty clear for me:
- When you’re done… Be DONE: As a person that has had a hard time admitting true defeat and cutting their losses, I can say this is one lesson that had been loud and clear in this situation. By continuing to go back and forth, all Brad and Jennifer have done is continue to hurt each other and prolong the situation. The break up is hard enough… Is it worth it to drown yourself in the aftermath of it all, too? That also lives little time to heal, too.
- Try to keep the peace: For years, we’ve seen these subtle jabs and comments by both Brad and Jennifer about how their relationship ended. It went so far that for the longest time, the public was even compelled to take sides. And, like friends choosing one side of a relationship, all it did was create a lot of divide and made it quite hard to forget. No wonder it took the public forever to get over it. They kept reminding us about it. In turn, keeping the feud alive.
- Once you say it, you can’t take it back: Truth: You are entitled to say whatever you want about someone. However, words can and do hurt. And, the more you say, the more it looks like no one has moved on. So whether it’s Brad’s recent comments or Jennifer’s remarks that Brad is missing a “sensitivity chip”, all it does is go on the record as bitter exes taking jabs at each other. So even though they’re both supposed to be happy, it doesn’t sound like anyone’s really moved on, right?
Whether or not they’ll ever pass on an opportunity to point fingers at each other, we’ll never know. However, it seems that there’s a lot to learn a lot from their long history, don’t you think?
I know I have. Now, to make sure these lessons stick with me.