You are no longer a girlfriend… you have just become a fiancé! You’ve got the ring on your finger, you’ve called all your family and BFFs, and you’ve updated your Facebook status and now… time to plan the wedding! Getting engaged is one of the most exciting times of your life – don’t spoil the months of fun by wasting it on worry. Here are a few tips to keep you sane and enjoy the wedding planning process.
Don’t expect your “Pinterest Wedding” to be your real wedding.
We all know we have that board called “Dream Wedding”. Lace draping all the chairs and walls, flowers hanging from the ceiling during the ceremony, ornately decorated centerpieces, intensely detailed seven tiered cakes… the works and more! Then, reality hits as soon as you walk into the flower shop – BAM… Pinterest weddings are expensive. While you may claim you have found the some cheap alternatives to some project, those DIY projects take up your valuable time. Instead, take inspiration from Pinterest, but know your boundaries. Your day is yours and your fiancés; make it unique to the two of you.
Use other weddings as research.
In the months after our engagement, we attended four weddings, three of them in July, which would be our wedding month the next year. At each of them, I found things I liked and didn’t like. Going to weddings is the best research you can get. However, all the things I did not like I only told my fiancé. Each persons wedding is perfect is their own special way – things you might think you don’t want at your wedding could be exactly what they wanted, or they might not even care about what is most important to you. And yes, people will be criticizing your wedding too; but forget about it… you’re marrying your best friend!!
This is 100% non-negotiable. Organization is the key to a low-stress wedding planning process. Even if you have a wedding planner, you still need to be organized to know what’s going on. Stress is the last thing you, your husband-to-be or your families need or want. Get a large, 3″ binder at the beginning of the process and make tabs for everything, from venue, to food and beverage to honeymoon, just for you! Stash stuff in there and set aside at least one day a month to re-organize, even if it’s just for 30 minutes. Involve your future hubby with this as well – include a bottle of wine and make it a romantic event!
Involve your family & bridal party.
Yes, this is the day you’ve most likely been dreaming of since you were little. It is you and your fiancé’s day to become husband and wife. But remember, it is also a special day for your family and friends. They want to be there for you and be involved. Schedule times where they can be involved in small ways. When it was time for my bridesmaids to get their dresses, I arranged for a brunch and made it a fun event. Moms want to be involved too; not to make decisions for you, but to share in their daughter (or son’s) special day. Even though you may think you are the one taking out all the time to plan and prepare for the big day, other people close to you are too, so show them you appreciate it!
I’m serious… just relax. There is absolutely nothing that the caterer could do to ruin your wedding. There is nothing about the flowers that could mess up your special day. As long as you and your fiancé are husband and wife by the end of the night – your wedding has been a success. The whole reason you spent months planning was so you could spend the rest of your life together – don’t forget that!