It seems that the entertainment world is atwitter (pun intended) with news that Brad Pitt has come out (No, not that way) and said that his five year marriage with actress Jennifer Aniston was “pathetic”.
Pitt clarified this statement and placed the blame squarely on himself by saying that he had become bored with the marriage and with himself in general, but that it was no fault of Aniston, (who was insulted by Seth MacFarlane at the Oscars recently when the host insinuated that she was previously a stripper).
I can absolutely appreciate how a person could feel stuck in a relationship that felt right when entering into it, but afterwards led to disillusionment and the weighty feeling of claustrophobia.
My former husband worked for the same company that I did. Yes, I know about inter-office romances, but we didn’t work in an office, so technically this didn’t apply. We spent every day together and it seemed that we had everything in common. Heck, we even listened to the same genre of music and ate the same foods. I was mistaken.
After we married, I learned that he actually hated the Mexican, Greek and Indian foods from before and expected me to cook only what he wanted, which was unhealthy, expensive and time consuming. He apparently didn’t understand how to make a sandwich or use a microwave. The music in the car changed and riding in the car without ear plugs became a challenge.
He also expected me to stay in touch constantly, even while spending time with family members. Needless to say, he had some serious control and self-esteem issues.
Our marriage ended basically the same way as Brad Pitt’s. He wasn’t receiving the amount of attention and adoration that thanks to his mother he was accustomed to, so he found another woman on Craigslist who would.
Instead of feeling depressed at the loss of a marriage, it was a breath of relief. I could finally relax without feeling the heavy weight of the proverbial ball and chain.
It’s totally understandable that Pitt could be sitting on the couch not feeling motivated to do anything, because a bad relationship is draining. It eliminates your sense of worth and you wonder if this relationship is all life has to offer.
I have learned to never change who you are inside. Never give up your individuality, your dreams or the ability spend time with family or friends alone. This would be to give up the person that you are inside and would never lead to happiness.