When it comes to having any sort of relationship, girls are looking for genuine guys and not players. The ability to spot someone genuine from a player can be very difficult if you do not know what you are looking for. Failure to tell the difference can leave you with someone that is looking for sex and a casual commitment, rather than a long-term relationship. Learn what players do to get your attention, and learn how to tell the difference between a genuine guy and a player.
Players have all the right lines
Players have all the cliché lines that make you feel like you are the most important person in the world. A line that was used recently with one of my female friends went something like this “I would much rather spend the night cuddling than do anything between the sheets”. Lines like this instill that the guy is not looking for anything other than your company, when in fact it is used solely to get into the girls bed without her feeling threatened. Another good line from the same person was “My days as a wingman are done after meeting you”. Anytime someone feeds you line after line in order to gain your confidence and trust should be an instant red flag. Genuine guys tell it like it is and we rarely use lines in a pickup attempt because we want things to be personal, not out of the cliché handbook of picking up girls.
Players will compliment you in all the right ways that boost your self-confidence
What do salespersons and players have in common? They all know the right moves to make someone feel confident. Have you ever been up-sold a car, or even a kitchen appliance when you did all your research before hand? We all have even with our best intentions. Like a salesman, a player will use their people skills to build your confidence, which is in an attempt to get whatever they are looking for. Players are typically looking for a physical relationship, opposed to any long-term commitment. Have you ever felt more open to a friend after they paid you compliments and let you talk while they just listened. Genuine guy’s like to use compliments as well, but look for well intentioned compliments that boost your self esteem with no ulterior motive. Players will use the same tactic and wait for you to come back to them. Genuine guys may appear more clingy, but they typically know what they want and that is a relationship, not just sex.
They use wingmen that boost your self-esteem and then talk up their friend
While in college, I had two friends in my fraternity that could be considered some of the biggest players in the entire school. Their scheme would be for the wingman to attract a small group of girls with compliments and stupid jokes, which causes the group to instantly give their attention and trust. His mission is to build up the girl that his friend was interested in, and then he would introduce his friend after giving several compliments. This made it seem that the friend wasn’t really interested because he didn’t approach the group, but would be willing to consider her because his friend already gave his approval. The girl in this case will feel good with all the attention, and then would get barraged with compliments that are an attempt at an eventual one-night stand. While it may seem impractical that people actually fall for this tactic, I’ve also never seen either of my two friends go home alone from a party.