Again I picked up another book on how to behave hoping my autistic daughter would learn appropriate behavior by reading about other children. She tends to learn better when things are presented in black and white than just talking to her about it. I have to say she loves What Do You Think? A Kid’s Guide to Dealing with Daily Dilemmas.
This book does not solve dilemmas, but questions children about how they think a solution can be found. Some of the topics were not applicable at her age, but some were. This is a great book to start discussions with your children. The questions after each dilemma is introduced will make kids think hard at how the problem could be solved!
This 184-page book has many, many dilemmas in it! These are the sections: At Home, At School, Our On Your Own, In Your Community, and Within Yourself. Of course, there are also notes to kids and notes to parents at the front of the book. I can’t possibly talk about everything in the book as there is just so much to it, but to give you an idea of what it contains, I will tell you about a few of the dilemmas in it.
Each dilemma has a title such as Respecting Property and then an explanation of what the dilemma is. Your friend comes over to your house and wants to play your brother’s game that you know he has forbidden you from touching, but he is not home right now. What do you do? The next page has four questions to get children to thinking about what could happen to the game if your friend plays it. What else could you let your friend play with besides your brother’s game? What about thinking of the future and next time asking for permission to play the game with your friends the next time? And how would you feel if your brother let his friend use your things? Each problem is set up this way with questions at the end to engage and challenge the child to think up solutions to the problem themselves. This book does not give any answers to the problems.
Some of the other problems in What Do You Think? A Kid’s Guide to Dealing with Daily Dilemmas are name calling, ethnic food, visiting someone in the nursing home, fighting in the car, someone you know uses a wheelchair, cutting trees down, owning too many animals, gossip, loud music, your father has a girlfriend, dying pet, shoplifting, marijuana, unwelcome touching, following the crowd, bullies, difficult name, and biased teacher. Each with their own set of questions to get children to think up solutions to the issues raised. Within Yourself is an eight page section on tips and suggestions to children about what kind of person they want to be.
Each problem has pictures that are black and white and some are hilarious, like the Mohawk hair-do and the kids fighting in the backseat! Each problem is described in one paragraph and the questions to get children to think up a solution to the issue are on one page and only four to five small paragraphs. The note to parents say this is a good book to read prior to the problem being raised. Even though the age recommendation is 12 years and up, I would say around 8 and up these days.This is a thought-provoking book for children to think about how to solve problems before they run into them!
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