Guys, as well as girls, are guilty of sending mixed messages when they text outside of a relationship. When a guy tells his girlfriend that he misses her, it can be taken at face value as to what he is saying without question. However, when a guy sends you a text that he misses you when you are not dating, does this mean he is interested in something more than friendship? Understand the context of his messages and his timing can be key to identifying what his real intentions are.
Does he send you texts that say he misses you late at night?
Timing is everything when it comes to figuring out what he is really trying to say with his text messages. Text messages that come late at night, especially near the weekend, can mean he is thinking of you when he is out drinking with his friends. This means he may be looking for something sexual, or he is trying to boost his own ego by getting you to express your desire to be with him. If he sends you a well thought out message, or the simple ‘I miss you’ message during normal hours, it may mean that he is just thinking of you during his normal day and wants to express this. Does this mean he wants more than friendship? That depends. You have to gauge your own friendship with him first. If the friendship has lasted for several years with nothing going beyond ‘just friends’ then he probably is just being a good friend. However, if you’ve only known each other for a few months, he may be hinting at he wants something more.
Does he already have a girlfriend that he is happy with?
Unless you are a stalker, don’t make up your own interpretation of how happy he is with his girlfriend, unless he tells you himself. Guy’s that are in unhappy relationships will let it be known, and often times we continue these bad relationships because we fear the unknown. If he has a girlfriend he is happy with and sends you a text telling you he misses you, you can almost guarantee he sent the message on a friends only basis. Don’t dig too deep into the meaning behind it. However, if he tells you that he is unhappy, he may be hinting at he wants to give you a shot and see what you are up to. He will gauge your reply to see how far he wants to chance his friendship with something more.
Does he text you immediately back when you reply?
I’ve been guilty of using the ‘I miss you’ text in order to see if someone would potentially be interested in going further than friends. The text is short and if the other person isn’t interested there is no harm because the text can be construed as non-threatening. However, if we are looking to hang out, or perhaps see if the friendship can lead further, we will be aggressive with our responses back. When we are not interested, we will delay our texts for hours, if not days. But when we want someone or something, we will reply almost as soon as we read your text. Try to read between the lines with his responses. If he texts you asking to hang out sometime, make a date and stick to it, don’t just answer back with wishful thinking, or plans that you two never intend to keep.
