As you cross over into the 30 plus demographic, you’ll need guidance. I’m happy to share what I know; although, frankly, I’m surprised that there are no “What to Expect…” books for thirty-somethings. You know like those how-to guides for pregnancy and motherhood. Hopefully these five pieces of wisdom will fill the void.
It’s all about expectations
Thirty wasn’t as traumatic for me as it was for some women I know. In fact, I threw myself a big party at my favorite disco. (Yes, I’m that old.) At 30, I was at peace because my life family, career and money expectations were on track. What else should you expect?
1- You’ll spend a lot of time thinking about skin
At 30 the idea of wrinkles will terrorize you. My oily but beautiful brown skin kept me slightly pimply but wrinkle free. Still, I wondered: what if that whole “black don’t crack” thing is just a myth?
I refused to let wrinkles catch me off guard. So once a month I ran up my Kaufman’s credit card purchasing expensive creams with “secret” age-defying ingredients. That’s what thirty-somethings do.
2- You’ll obsess over body parts
Even if you’re lean and mean, you’ll read books like “Thinner Thighs in Thirty Days.” You’ll cringe at the thought of thunder thighs or cellulite. You’ll exercise, cut carbs, and drink diet shakes. You’ll starve yourself to keep the fat away, just like all the other thirty-plus ladies at the gym. And yes, I speak from experience.
3- You’ll try to breath life into a dying career
In the article “Turning Age 30, 40 or 50 Life Crisis ,” Marcia Reynolds, Psy.D. explains that age 30 is a time when women “…focus on career choices.” That’s so true.
I contemplated a career change, but I got a promotion not long after I turned 30. I moved my family from Cincinnati to Pittsburgh to supervise a commercial insurance litigation unit. I worked long hours, and my boss was an idiot, but the salary bump kept my expectations on track.
4- A baby daddy panic could lower your expectations
At 30 I was divorced with two children and living miles away from my everyone I knew. That sounds rough, but my life was a picnic compared to the thirty-somethings I knew who were both manless and childless.
If that’s you, be prepared to become a babbling wife/mommy wannabe after you cross over the three decade finish line. You’ll swoon over fuzzy baby booties and organic diapers. You’ll see every loser date as a baby daddy possibility.
5- People will take you more seriously
Children will start saying “yes ma’am” and “no ma’am” for no apparent reason. You’ll feel really old at first, but eventually you’ll accept it as a sign of respect.
At 30 your boss will see you as a grown woman instead of a snotty-nosed kid in pumps, and you might actually get the next promotion that comes along.