When should you to stop doing favors? As soon as you start asking yourself this question. By now, the persons you are helping probably take your kindness as a weakness. But, just in case you’re still confused, the following are signs I use to know when to back off.
You are running around like a chicken with his head cut off. Keeping your own life in order is becoming increasingly more difficult because of the favors you do for others. And surprisingly, none of the recipients are offering to help YOU out.
No appreciation is shown.
Initially, the individuals you did favors for were so grateful. They couldn’t stop thanking you. Now, there’s been a sudden shift in attitude and they ALL treat you like your help is repayment for some type of debt. They even criticize you when your assistance doesn’t meet their standards.
They aren’t helping themselves.
They continue to overspend, not find daycare, and miss the bus. In other words, they count on you to pay at least one major bill, watch their kids for free and give them rides instead of becoming more self-reliant. These people don’t have any plans on how to get out of their current problems.
You’re needs are completely ignored.
Whether your sick, busy or tired, the persons receiving the favors keep asking for help. You’ve talked to them a couple of times about their behavior. They either act as though you’re being too sensitive or lying. So, as a consequence, they never consider how you feel.
You don’t want to do favors anymore.
You want to concentrate on YOU for a while. In addition, you’re also starting to resent the entire human race over the failings of a few. You’re developing a victim mentality, a belief that others always take advantage of you, and that’s not good.
Enlightened? Use the above to know when to stop doing favors. Let others take care of themselves or be there for you sometimes. It’ll make you see the world in a different way.