One of the biggest challenges in any relationship is when someone doesn’t open up emotionally. Guy’s often ruin any chance of a long-term relationship because they don’t open up as quickly as girls do. This creates tension and causes confusion, which causes the other partner to start questioning if there is something they are doing wrong. Learn why guy’s are afraid to open up and if there is anything you can do to change this type of behavior.
They Have Been Hurt in the Past
Whether we admit it or not, almost all guys have been hurt at some point in their past after they have opened up. Once we have been hurt we often engage in behavior that separates up from emotional connections, such as friends with benefits type relationships, or casual sex. When we finally trust again, we will still have a hard time to open up again. Trust is earned over time and we will often wait until we have full trust in the relationship before we open up. We may open up little by little in the beginning, but not until we know the relationship is serious and long-term will we open up fully.
It’s Their Personality
Some men are shy and reserved and don’t really open up to anyone in the way that most other men do. Guy’s who have a reserved and enclosed sense of personality will appear that they not willing to open up, or are not into you. However, in this case, the guy may be into you, just doesn’t tell you in his words. This type of guy will also appear afraid to open up, when in fact he just actually doesn’t open to anyone until he is absolutely comfortable to do so.
He’s Not Ready to Open Up
When you first begin a relationship or dating, you may want to know everything about the person you have been spending all your time with. Opening up takes time, and with every relationship, you will get to know the other person when the time is right. Try opening up to him first by telling him about one of your insecurities, or a life changing moment that no one else knows about you. Trust is normally earned by giving more than you receive until the other person feels comfortable. Opening up to him with something that is personal may give him that extra boost needed to open up to you.
The Relationship is Not That Serious
When men engage in relationships that are casual by nature and are geared more towards sex than a full-fledged emotional relationship, we will not open up. We feel that when we are in a casual relationship we don’t want to open up to someone on a deeper level as a way not to get hurt. If you feel like this is the type of relationship you are in and you want something more, you better look elsewhere. Guy’s rarely bridge the gap between someone they ‘hook up’ with and someone they want to spend several years with.