I feed the feral cats in my area a few times a week. Whenever I do I come home feeling good.
I tend to get irritated when the car guard expects a tip when all I have done is run into the shop for a few minutes. My husband on the other hand tips generously even if he is waiting in the car for me
Whenever he does I am heartened by the look of appreciation on the car guards face
Have you noticed when you do something nice for somebody else you feel good?
On the other hand have you noticed when you are bad tempered, rude or mean you feel bad inside even if you feel justified or vindicated?
The reason for this is being kind is good for our overall health. When we are kind there is a link to the vegus nerve. The vegus nerve regulates our heart rate, breathing, glucose levels & immune response. By being kind our heart rate slows down, our breathing become deeper & we feel relaxed.
We also produce oxytocin which makes us feel good. We produce oxytocin in large amounts when we are breast feeding, in love, hugging someone or making love. This lowers our blood pressure making us feel good.
Plus our brain releases a neurotransmitter called Dopamine, which is the feel good hormone. When we lack dopamine we can suffer with depression .
This info blew me away. When we do a kindness to someone not only does our brain release dopomine & oxytocin, but so does the person’s brain who is the recipient of the kindness. PLUS anyone witnessing the kindness also get a feel good boost of these hormones.
There was a study done over a 6 week period with two groups. The first group was asked to perform 5 acts of kindness every Friday. The other group were asked to continue their Friday as per usual. At the end they found the kindness group to be happier & more content with their lives in general plus their overall health was better than the other group.
Another study was done with married couples. The interaction was observed & monitored .
The couples who were aggressive & impatient with each other experienced more heart problems.
The couples who were kind & patient with each other were happier & experienced less heart issues.
Loving from the heart is literally good for our heart
Being Kind is like eating chocolate…it makes us feel good.
10 Steps to fill your Life with Kindness
- Compassion. Try to put yourself in the other persons shoes & feel what they are feeling. Once you get in touch with their feelings it is easier to feel mercy, forgiveness, understanding & of course kindness
- Smile. As it says in the song “when you smile the whole world smiles with you” Smile at complete strangers. It is so gratifying when they smile back. Smile often & freely. We never know how a smile can make a person’s day
- Do something nice for somebody else at least once every day. This could be little things. Go out of your way to be nice. When you would normally criticize or judge be patient or helpful. Pick up your clothes. Buy a cup of coffee for the newspaper seller. Offer your seat to someone. There are so many ways to be kind
- Focus on your happy moment for the day. This will evoke kindness in you. The happy moment could be seeing a butterfly, smelling coffee, hearing a child giggle. When we focus on what makes us feel good we will start feeling happier & in turn kinder. It is easy to be kind when we feel good. It is a challenge to feel kind when we are having a bad day. However it is hard to feel bad if we are being kind. Win win all round
- Hugs. Giving a hug or touching someone when they are down makes us both feel good. Hug your children & parents often.
- Be Kind to Yourself. Treat yourself like your best friend. Make a point of not criticizing yourself. Listen to your self talk. If you find it wanting apologize to yourself. Boost your own self esteem. When you truly love & honor yourself it is so easy to do the same for others. We are on the same team. We are all human. We are connected. We all make mistakes. Forgive & move on.
- Meditate. If you don’t already, try to meditate for 10 minutes every day. Close your eyes & say to yourself “May I be well. May I be at happy. May I be at peace” Keep repeating this for a few times. Then extend it to your family “May you be well. May you be happy. May you be at peace” Then think of the people you know who need help & extend this to them. Try to do this for your “enemies” If we all had peace in our hearts, imagine there would be no conflict or wars
- Intention. Set a daily intention to be kind to yourself & everyone you come into contact with. We need to exercise the kindness habit. It takes practice to grow this muscle
- Gratitude. Practice being grateful. When we are grateful for our lives, our bodies, our families & friends it is so much easier to be kind. Find new things to be grateful for every day
- Animals & Plants. Be kind to all creatures on earth. We all deserve to be here. Do you know domestic dogs, cats & horses resonate at the frequency of unconditional love, which is higher than most of us resonate at. Scary thought.