Have you ever had a friend that complained about being single only to make anyone interested in her go on an extensive chase before she would commit? One of the most intriguing and arguably the most illogical patterns of dating is ‘the chase’. Many singles would argue that they just want to get into a relationship with someone that meets their criteria, all while avoiding any games. However, this type of behavior still occurs often in the dating world. Do guy’s actually relish the chase, or do we just give up if we have to work too hard?
Are you someone we are pursuing for a long-term relationship or a casual relationship?
Dating is similar to the economic theory of supply and demand. This states when supply is plentiful of any product, similar to the dating pool, the demand will be lower because we can be picky. However, when supply is limited, our demand increases due to scarcity. If we are trying to pursue a long-term relationship with anyone of quality, we do like playing the game of the chase. We like to have to work for the relationship to get established in the early stages. Working for the relationship makes, us appreciate you more when we finally get into a relationship. If we are just looking for a casual relationship, we will not put all the effort into the chase, as the reward may not be worth the effort.
How long do you plan on making us wait for a relationship?
I expect to have to work a bit in any new relationship, proving myself in the beginning and maintaining the integrity set forth during the first few dates. However, making us chase you in order to get a relationship gets old after a while. We like to know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and we will eventually get what we are working so to get. If you play hard to get and we continue to pursue you may think that continuing to make us chase you will end in a much better relationship, or makes us finally happy just to have you. This is not the case; we often grow frustrated and just pursue someone else that we like equally that doesn’t make us chase too long when we are looking for a relationship.
Are you making the guy chase you because you like the attention?
The one personality trait that guys take advantage of the most and absolutely hate is someone that loves self-attention. From my own experience, I’ve found that girls like to know that they are wanted and will continue to play the chasing game until the guy just gives up. At this point, the girl will try to regain the guys attention, which typically works and we will continue to pursue. However, we may grow frustrated and when we finally have the chance of a relationship we may opt for sex over any long-term commitment. Men that look for a one-night stand will often use this type of behavior to build you up until they get you in bed and then will just pursue the next person. Be careful to play the chasing game if you really want the relationship, not because you want attention.