I understand rejection – bosses who assigned me the bulk of the work, but none of the glory; family members who started hateful rumors to protect their own bad behavior; and, partners that turned their backs on me for a new love. Yet, with time – through the hurt – I realized that all of this rejection was a blessing, a way to help me develop as a person.
Why rejection is good for you.
Rejection helps you:
- Learn about people. Unfortunately, this is the only way at times to figure out patterns in toxic friends and family. These individuals reward you with love at a high price or not at all. You discover the guy who is as sharp as a tack on the outside isn’t always pretty on the inside. Or, your brother is jealous and as a result can’t be happy for your success. Understanding how humans behave is key to maneuvering wisely through the world and knowing whom to allow in your inner circle.
- Realize your potential. After finding out that everyone isn’t lining up to help with a project, you act alone. Pushing past fear and disappointment to achieve anything is empowering. Although it’s great to have support, you realize you don’t need this factor to move forward. You can get what you desire independently without waiting on someone else to lend a hand.
- Develop a thick skin. Professional athletes, a-list celebrities, and business moguls all have one thing in common. These folks had to the ability to withstand a no; their thick skin kept them going when no one wanted to give them a chance. This secret to success is rarely talked about because the average Joe wants to believe successful people are lucky. Yet, luck has very little to do with fame and fortune. People who fit into this category have to face rejection without flinching and fight for opportunities to showcase a skill or sell a product.
- Correct your mistakes. A hateful glance, unreturned call, poor grade – reveals your human error. You can take these failings and determine what you should change. Maybe you’re rude or lazy? You need to put more effort into being a nice person or work harder at school. Rejection is often a sign you need to make changes – even if the only adjustment is to take yourself less seriously.
Use the above to help you weather rejection. Think of rejection as a tool, a way to improve your life.
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