I work with clients all over the world…Thousands of men and women going through a breakup and surviving a divorce.
And you want to know the most common reason why most relationships fail?
Many relationships go into breakdown because the woman is trying to be the man.
Look, I get that you want to be a powerful, self-sufficient, independent woman. So do I!
But if you’ve had relationship problems with a man, you need to continue reading this article, because I’m about to tell you a not-so-obvious reason that your relationship ended….And it has everything to do with your femininity.
Your feminine self is suffering and has been ignored for most of your life…
The feminine woman that resides within you has been ignored. She’s been tossed to the side like an old pair of shoes, and without her, your romantic life is….well….doomed.
When we women started going into the work place, we had to adapt very quickly to a man’s world. We had to learn a different way of speaking and communicating, which included beginning to take on men’s ways of cutting up with each other, making fun of each other, and being anything but soft, warm, and comforting.
We started wearing stuffy suits and stopped wearing sexy aprons. We started carrying stiff briefcases and stopped carrying soft energy.
We began striving for some things and competing for others. We worked our little tushes off to prove we deserved to be equal, many times working more than the men themselves.
We pushed, and pulled, and wore ourselves out trying to climb to (and often sleep to) the “top”.
And then, at the end of the day, we schlepped ourselves back home to our men and the many other household chores that still needed tending to and husbands who still expected a warm meal at the dinner table.
Whew! That sounds exhausting.
Sometimes I wonder what the hell we were thinking…
Didn’t we have it made wearing sexy aprons and and being able to stretch out and relax in an empty house all day while someone else went out to push, pull, and wear themselves out to bring home the bacon?
But no…That wasn’t OK with us. We had to “prove ourselves”. We had to “show those men who’s boss.
And we certainly did, didn’t we?
We because executives. We became VPs. We even became Presidents and CEOs and holders of all sorts of prominent political positions, too.
But you know what we also became?
We women became men. And with that, we lost our soft, sexy, sensual feminine selves that makes men fall to their knees in lust, adoration, and ultimately, love.
If you’re like most women today, you have fallen victim to this new way of being for women and have been taught from an early age to be more masculine that you have been taught to be feminine.
And because of that, you’re experiencing what feels like a never ending trial and tribulation with relationship that never seem to work out.
While I’m not encouraging you to quit your job or become any less independent and wonderful as you are today, what I AM encouraging you to do is take a serious look at your feminine self and access your ability to use your feminine energy in the presence of a man….In particularly in the presence of a man you are in a romantic relationship with.
If you’re more masculine than you are feminine, your relationship will ultimately fail. It might not fail so far that you break up or divorce, but it will fail in other ways such as communication, intimacy, romance, etc.
Here are a few areas for you to access your femininity:
1) Your conversations. Do you listen well? Feminine energy is all about opening yourself up to receive. When you talk to a man, lean forward and listen. Receive what he is saying. Nod your head. Acknowledge his words, and thank him for sharing his inner most thoughts with you.
2) Your attire. Are you covered up from head to toe? All of us have a certain feature on our body that can be accentuated. If you have great legs, show them off! If you have nice shoulders, wear a shirt that falls off one of them. Start wearing more feminine clothes in general, which will help you feel softer, sweeter, and more flirtatious around men.
3) Your evening routine: If you’re currently married or living with your man, start to notice what you do when you walk in the door from work. Do you stomp in, toss your belongings on the couch with a sigh, and immediately start to unleash your frustrations? We all need to vent, but we shouldn’t bring our aggressive work behavior home with us to our man. There will always be exceptions, but try to get into the habit of dropping back into your feminine self on the way home from work. If you can’t shake it off before you get home, put on some light music when you get there and spend a few minutes by yourself to unwind. If you have to, put on some sexy lingerie underneath your evening attire!
Masculine energy wants feminine energy, and feminine energy wants masculine energy. They need each other to survive in a relationship. It’s really quite simple, actually. But if you’re more masculine than you are feminine, you are mixing oil and water.
Besides, it’s much more fun to be a hot, sexy, sensual woman anyhow! Why in the world have we been trying to fight being one?