Sexual attraction or physical attraction can only last so long. Just like friendships can fade away easily, intense love affairs can lose their intensity with time. So, what are you left with when that happens? You’re left with a couple of good memories, though they’ll be bitter sweet memories now, and you’ll be left wondering what went wrong and where. But, this need not happen to you; you can find your happily ever after if you manage to avoid the following three mistakes in your relationships.
A while ago, I had a dating experience with I guy I hooked up with. He was very handsome, and I was enamored. The thing was, it was a long-distance relationship, and he starting feeling that we might not get anywhere with the distance between us. He decided to break things off, and I was left with a broken heart. I had a hard time believing that things were over just like that, and I guess I spent a lot of my time in denial.
But we did get back together later on. It took some time, and we had to talk things out, but it did happen. But that’s not the purpose of this article. I’m telling so you’ll understand that everyone makes mistakes, and so have I, and it’s cost me a lot in my previous relationships. I hope me pointing them out will make you change your ways so you can have a happy, long-term relationship with your significant other.
1. Using your phone as your main communication channel
When my boyfriend and I started facing problems, we didn’t try to meet up and clear things up face-to-face. We talked about our problems over the phone and text messages. Text messages are the worst; the lack of emotions in them make the problems worse, not better. Though things got worse, we still continued to try talking things out over the phone; yes, we didn’t realize that we were making a mistake.
You might ask why? What is the problem with talking over the phone? Well, you guys are already fighting and having problems. The last thing you need is for your fight to get worse because your lover misunderstood something you said. Trust me, text messages and phone conversations have a way of warping reason.
2. Running after the person:
You might feel like everything is your fault, so you’ll keep running after the person to make things better. Trust me, it’s only going to make things worse. Both sides should take responsibility for the break-up. You’re not the only one at fault, and if you lose your self-respect by thinking that, you can be certain that they’ll lose respect for you too, and don’t expect any love to blossom when there is no respect.
Give the both of you some time. Sometime, all they need is some time to cool down and think things through. Once they do that, they might eve realize that breaking up was a wrong idea and come back to you. Wait for that to happen, and if it doesn’t, let it go, because if they don’t want it, you can’t force the issue.